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Tears and Sleep

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Experiencing the enchanting moments of putting your little one to sleep, listening to their joyful babbling and chatter, can make you feel like a parenting pro. On the contrary, the heart-wrenching sound of your child crying at bedtime can evoke feelings of inadequacy and stress, turning the experience into a challenging ordeal.

How many times have blamed teeth or wind on the reason your little one cries? I know I have many times when in fact I have had no idea as to the cause of the tears. So, what could the tears mean?

When my little one began to verbally communicate I knew things were about to get equally easier and more intense. I was excited to finally know for real when and what was upsetting him. Until that point though the babies communicate non-verbally and crying is their primary means of expressing discomfort or discontent. Coming to conclusions as to the cause behind the tears can be a perplexing task for parents and carers, as it could signal many things like hunger, wetness, coldness, pain, overstimulation, overtiredness, and many more. Navigating through this myriad of possibilities can be overwhelming, leaving you desperately seeking solutions.

Establishing a consistent bedtime routine is a proactive step toward addressing your little one’s needs. By ensuring they are well-fed, clean, and comfortable, you’ve attended to the basics. Yet, despite these efforts you may still encounter tears. Know that these tears are often attributed to over tiredness. It is not uncommon for some children to release pent-up energy through a brief 5-10 minute shout or cry upon entering their bed—a phenomenon referred to as ‘decompression,’ marking the transition to relaxation.

However, if your baby protests for more than 15 minutes, it may indicate a struggle stemming from heightened adrenaline levels caused by overtiredness. In such cases, adjusting their bedtime or examining their awake periods during the day can be instrumental in promoting better sleep.

While various factors may contribute to bedtime tears, my experience suggests that tweaking bedtime and awake windows can significantly alleviate the issue. If you find yourself concerned about your little one’s distress during bedtime, I encourage you to reach out for a free 15-minute consultation. I am here to offer guidance and support on sleep in your parenting journey.

If you are worried about your little ones protests at bedtime please get in touch. Book a free, no obligation call and we can talk about working together to get you a better night’s sleep.

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