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Sharing a Bedroom

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Hands up, who shared a room with their sibling when they were younger? Yes I did, as I am sure many of us did. Your little ones may be asking to share a bedroom or you may have little choice and your little ones have to share a bedroom. How do you make this transition to sharing a bedroom successfully?

You may be wondering how to make this transition to sharing a room, or you may have already made the transition and your little ones are not sleeping so well sharing a room.

Naturally sleep will go better if they have their sleep skills before they begin to share a room and will be easier to manage. If not, there will be all sorts of mischief-making and you may find one wakes the other, which won’t help anybody!

Having them share a room will make it easier to do bedtime when you are solo parenting especially if you are feeding them.

From my perspective, implementing evidence-based approaches to sleep teaching can be effective in helping children share a room and ultimately sleep well. If you would like help teaching one of your little ones to sleep then please do get in touch here.

Teaching your little ones to sleep in separate rooms is highly recommended but after they have learnt their sleep skills you could bring them together again if this is your ideal.

Sharing a bedroom can be a really positive experience for siblings, fostering a sense of companionship and closeness and respect. This is all well and good but how do you get to that point? This blog will discuss some of the aspects that make sharing a room successful.

  • Involve Both Children in the Process from start to finish

Start bedtime with a good bedtime routine, one which can be found here if you would like to know more. Allow your children to have some say in how the room is set up. This can include choosing colours, decor, or even picking out their own bedding. When children feel involved, they may be more cooperative and excited about the change.

  • Establish Clear Rules and Expectations

Clearly communicate the rules and expectations for bedtime behaviour. A chart on their wall of sleep rules and their routine may be helpful. Make sure both children understand what is expected of them, such as being quiet once they have said goodnight and the lights have been turned out. At the start of room sharing there may very well be messing around but consider setting a timer for talking and then once it goes off it means no more talking and time to sleep.

  • Create Personalised Sleep Spaces

Even if the room is shared, each child can have their own designated area. Personalised bedding, pillows, or a small bedside table can help create a sense of individual space within the shared room.

  • Address Age and Developmental Differences

If there is a significant age gap between your children, consider their different sleep needs. Ensure that the younger child has an earlier bedtime if necessary.

  • Introduce White / Pink or Brown Noise

Having white noise machine in the background, can help drown out any sounds that might disturb one child while the other is still awake. This can be especially useful if one child is an early sleeper and the other stays up a bit later.

  • Be Flexible

Recognise that there may be an adjustment period even when your children have sleep skills. Be flexible in making tweaks to the arrangement or routine if needed. It’s normal for some trial and error to occur before finding the best setup for your children.

  • Monitor and Reassess

Keep an eye on how the shared arrangement is working for both children. Regularly check in with them to address any concerns or challenges, and be open to making adjustments as needed.

If bedtime rules and boundaries are not being adhered to, don’t be nervous about considering a consequence if there is a lot of messing about but it is important to be consistent with it.. as a tip do not take away their snuggly/comforter they may use for sleep.

  • Twins

Here is a blog surrounding sleep management with twins called ‘How to manage sleep with twins’ so do have a read if you would like to learn about sleep and your twins. Remember that every child is unique, so what works for one pair of siblings may not work for another. Pay attention to your children’s needs and preferences, and tailor the arrangement to suit their individual personalities and habits.

If you are struggling with one or more of your children sharing a room successfully then please do get in touch and we can discuss how to teach them.

Book a free, no obligation call and we can talk about working together to get you a better night’s sleep.

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